With the rapid growth of Muslim schools, Masaajid and Muslim Student Associations in Universities through out the world today, it is sad to see so many of us still lacking the Islamic manners and discipline ordained by Allaah and His Rasool S.A.W. With the many lectures and bayans organized in Masaajid and Islamic Centers by brothers and sisters involved in Dawah and Tabligh, we still see that lack of Islamic manners and discipline. One wonders if it is ignorance that causes this lack of Islamic mannerism or is it mere arrogance that creeps into our hearts . Whatever it may be, it is most important for us to understand that good manners and discipline is a key factor in the life of a true Muslim. It was always a main concern of the Holy Prophet Muhammad ( S.A.W). The following are some references and reminders for us to pay heed too Inshaa Allaah. Abu Darda’ reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.” Abu Huraira, r.a., said, “I heard Abu al Qasim (the Prophet saaws), say, ‘The best among you in Islam are those with the best manners, so long as they develop a sense of understanding.’ “ The Prophet (saaws) said: “The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Allah are those with the best manners.” ‘Abd Allah ibn ‘Amr said, “The Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, was never obscene or coarse. Rather, he used to tell us that the best among us were those with the best manners.” Anas said, “I served the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, for ten years. During that time, he never once said to me as much as ‘Oof’ if I did something wrong. He never asked me, if I had failed to do something, ‘Why did you not do it?,’ and he never said to me, if I had done something wrong, ‘Why did you do it?’ “ Abu Huraira, r.a., said that the Prophet of Allah, (S.A.W.), said, “If one has good manners, one may attain the same level of merit as those who spend their nights in prayer.” Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet of Allah (saaws) said, “And what is most likely to send people to Paradise? Being conscious of Allah and good manners.” The Prophet of Allah, saaws, said, “He who does not show mercy to our young or show esteem for our elders is not one of us.” Abu Huraira, r.a., reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “Give gifts to one another, and you will love one another.”
Ibn Abi Mas’ud al Badri reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “Anyone who spends money on his family and seeks blessings for doing so will find it counted as sadaqah (charity) on his behalf.” Abu Mus’ud reported that the Prophet of Allah, saaws, said, “Among the well-known wisdom of the prophets is the saying, ‘If you have no shame, then do as you please.’ “ Hadith - Sahih Bukhari, Muslim, Nasa’i, Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah, and Tabarani Abu Huraira, r.a., reported that the Prophet, (S.A.W.), said, “... Having a sense of shame is one branch of faith.” ‘Abd Allah ibn Abi ‘Atabah said that he heard Abu Sa’id say, “The Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, was more shy than a virgin in her shift. Whenever he disliked something, we could see it on his face.” Abu Huraira, r.a., reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, “Whoever eats with his servant, or rides a donkey in the marketplace, or who ties up his goat and milks it will no be guilty of the sin of pride. Abu Huraira, r.a., reported that a handsome man went to the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, and said, “I love beauty, and I have been given what you see, even to the extent of my hating to be bested. Is that pride?” The Prophet replied, “No. Rather, pride is to disdain the truth and to treat others with contempt.”